Sunday, May 25, 2008

Integrity and addictive tendencies

I have recently discovered something very compelling about my addictive tendencies and with me being in Integrity. Addictive tendencies, for me so far, have been sex addiction (internet and magazines, and masturbation). They are attempts by me to feel loved and complete.This feeling of love that is missing is my love, for myself. That completeess that I am searching for, is a missing piece of my Self. Somewhere along the line, usually within the last 12-24 hours before I attempt to act out, I dishonored a part of me. This can look like many different things, but the feeling is that of not speaking for myself, not choosing for myself, or not owning something specific about me.I begin, at that point, to start relying on my ego, or child self for my survival. And boy does it feel like survival. In that place, I do not feel filled up, nothing works quite right, everything seems to be my fault, or at least my problem, and I most certainly feel desperate and on the sheer edge. It is here that the act of addictive behavior is an "of course"! My only choice, other than continue acting from this place, is to name what is so for me. To be completely honest with myself as to what is going on for me, or at least that things are not working and I need to take a moment to reset. I realize that I am acting out of fear, pain or anger and begin reviewing my recent past transactions. If I am rigorous in that review, then name the place where I was out of integrity, then BOOM!, I am already on my way back into my Self. Empowered! At some point quickly, I will need to discharge the pain associated with the moment I stepped out of integrity, then when I feel right (physiologically, usually my belly), then I can set a new intention to correct the previous moment that "caused" me to choose other than my Self. Once I have completed this "relationship cleanup", being sure to do it for me, with full ownership of both, how I was being at that moment, and also how I helped set up to be treated that way, all the while still having concern for the other person in the front of my mind and no attachment as to how they receive or perceive my message, then, and only then, can I consider this "case" closed and move on. Finally, the overall result that I have concluded is that I cannot act out in my addictive tendencies when I am in Integrity with my Self.

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